Unconventional Citizens

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The Letter Code

“When we only see the surface of ourselves, we risk only loving the surface of others.”

Available September 13th, 2022

Unconventional Citizens

Part poetry, Part Reflection Guide, part social commentary.

Unconventional Citizens is a conversation between the deep and raw versions of ourselves and the relationships we want to belong to, renovate, and repair. The lines, images and prompts are designed for readers to interact with, talk back to, embrace and reject. Themes of impermanence, intimacy, innovation and identity aren’t just simple concepts we conjure up when they are useful to us. They influence what we hold onto, what we let go of, how we deceive ourselves, and the ways we attempt to live with each other, nature and the esoteric.

Dr. White’s third book aims to provoke you to experiment with your own citizenship while honoring your unconventional qualities.

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available June 20th, 2020

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a step by step manual to master group conversations, team meetings and social dynamics. 

Understand people like a psychologist, communicate with them like a leader. By mastering a single routine, you can efficiently build group cohesion without enforcing dogmatic conformity. This simple technique enables you to start conversations, gatherings, and meetings consciously and to train others to speak openly and listen deeply—without it taking too much effort or time. Using the step-by-step guidelines in this book, you’ll easily improve your ability to stimulate personal insight, emotional intelligence, and engagement in yourself and others. Included are 52 diverse questions to generate connectivity.

Learn the most effective way to "Check In" with those you care about

We need easy routines to truly listen to one another.

We need social encouragement to reflect on our own truths.

We need to disciplines to practice being personally mindful and collectively cohesive


If you’ve ever suspected that not everyone wants the same things from intimate relationships, you’re right. This book explains why. The truth is that each of us has a hidden need that must be met in order to feel secure, balanced and fulfilled.

Raise your personal awareness on what you really want, the conditions that work for you the best, and the ways your partner can better understand, and easily connect, with you. Learn how to quickly name how much physical space and time you need on your own, how often you’d like to share with your significant other. and how certain dynamics can balance or unsettle you.

A remarkable combination of the most prominent relational theories and best practices of our time, The Letter Code gives you an individualized roadmap to boost your EQ and enhance compatibility in your most significant partnership.


Equally effective for dating singles and long-term married couples.


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