Unconventional Citizens

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The Letter Code

“When we only see the surface of ourselves, we risk only loving the surface of others.”

Available September 13th, 2022

Unconventional Citizens

Part poetry, Part Reflection Guide, part social commentary.

Unconventional Citizens is a conversation between the deep and raw versions of ourselves and the relationships we want to belong to, renovate, and repair. The lines, images and prompts are designed for readers to interact with, talk back to, embrace and reject. Themes of impermanence, intimacy, innovation and identity aren’t just simple concepts we conjure up when they are useful to us. They influence what we hold onto, what we let go of, how we deceive ourselves, and the ways we attempt to live with each other, nature and the esoteric.

Dr. White’s third book aims to provoke you to experiment with your own citizenship while honoring your unconventional qualities.

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available June 20th, 2020

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a step by step manual to master group conversations, team meetings and social dynamics. 

Understand people like a psychologist, communicate with them like a leader. By mastering a single routine, you can efficiently build group cohesion without enforcing dogmatic conformity. This simple technique enables you to start conversations, gatherings, and meetings consciously and to train others to speak openly and listen deeply—without it taking too much effort or time. Using the step-by-step guidelines in this book, you’ll easily improve your ability to stimulate personal insight, emotional intelligence, and engagement in yourself and others. Included are 52 diverse questions to generate connectivity.

Learn the most effective way to "Check In" with those you care about

We need easy routines to truly listen to one another.

We need social encouragement to reflect on our own truths.

We need to disciplines to practice being personally mindful and collectively cohesive

Ever wonder how you can be so smart in so many areas, but just a fool when it comes to love? Our minds often lead us astray with false stories about what we want or should do when it comes to our most significant relationships. We often are distracted by the superficial relationship situation we are in, and we can’t see through to the truth of  why we are in it. This blindness can impede us from truly understanding our true needs and achieving a sense of fulfillment and balance in our relationships.

Using The Letter Code, it doesn’t take long to reveal what you need in order to have more energy, vitality and balance in love. The book provides a simple personality assessment, where readers quickly gain awareness of their primary needs from love.  The Shape of Four Letters (H, A, W, Y) visually represents four primary motivations that drive people’s thoughts, feelings and behaviors in their romantic relationships. Each letter conveys a certain energy dynamic, essentially answering why and a partner reaches out, leans “toward” or “away from” their significant other.

The concept of the book is that if the reader can examine themselves and figure out their own primary truth (as opposed to getting distracted by their partner is doing) then they more effectively and genuinely connect. This will save energy and a sense of fulfillment. When both partners harness this awareness, it will increase the likelihood of compatibility and reduce conflict. The Letter Code ultimately helps each of us utilize self-awareness to achieve a love that serves our true hearts.

Audience includes both dating singles, serious partnerships and married couples.


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